Black History Month Community Movie Night 2-18-2015

This week at the Golden Fold Movement

Open to the Public * Come out for our Black History Movie Night

Wednesday 2/18/2015 The Golden Fold's Community Movie Night

500 Years Later

FREE 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm

The Boys & Girl's Club

1505 Competitor

Virginian Beach, VA

​

I'd rather do it myself (another step towards failure)

"If you're up against a problem, meet it squarely face to face........"

     One of the things I've noticed with many of my intensive in-home counseling clientele is the propensity of many parents, particularly single mothers, to allow their children, primarily sons, to avoid things that they are not particularly talented at. In many cases these parents will do household chores for the boys stating "If I let him do it, I'll have to do it all over again. He does a horrible job. Id rather do it myself."

     Interestingly enough these same parents will then complain that the child is irresponsible. To many times the old adage "Mothers love their sons, and raise their daughters." rings true. The suggestion that these parents compel these sons to complete the chore and to teach them how to meet a standard is often met with resistance. Teaching them to walk by extending your hands in front of the infant, and baby-talking with them to teach them to walk was adorable and fun, but teaching them to be responsible seems like pulling teeth.

     If you want your child to be responsible, you have to give him responsibility and guide him while he moves from under-performance to satisfactory performance, to enable him to become responsible. "I've told him a thousand times..." is normally expressed by these parents. Explaining, discussions, nagging, yelling, or subtle hints normally doesn't work. Meet the problem squarely face to face with action, not with words. The opposite option normally leads your son another step towards failure.

SV

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

     If you have consumer debt, and you'd like to reduce the interest rate, and the amount owed, give me a text or a call @ 757-932-0177. Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Inc. This company combines entertainment, counseling, community activism, financial literacy and debt reduction counseling.
     Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, financial services, real estate, radio, counseling and education (WHEW). Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-932-0177 for more details. At the time of this posting Seko is not active with World Financial Group, nor with financial services marketing.

I believe in.......

For the national day of writing - I believe:

      I believe in improvement. This is far deeper than a belief. I've seen people drastically improve thier lives by improving one thing. A parent that I'm counseling recently shared wih me that her "bad child" hasn't had a violent temper tantrum in 10 consecutive days. His norm was two days. She had changed one thing in their relationship and brought about a level of change.
     When I first met with the parent I brought out some dominos and placed 10 of them in a row. I pushed the first one in a row and all of them fell. I stood all of the dominos up again and then removed one of the dominos from the row. This time when I pushed the first one a different experience occured..... The area where the domino was removed reduced the momentum and force of the falling dominos reduced and 3 were left standing. I looked at her and stated "Change one thing and you change the experience." I then re-stood the 9 fallen dominos and removed a second domino from the row. This domino that I removed was immediately in front of the open area from the first domino I removed. This time when I pushed the first domino only two dominos fell. The remainder remained standing. I looked at her and stated "We need to determine whicch two things can be improved or removed in your household."
    I know a man who converted to Islam over a decade ago and became a far better man. While family members are still rebuking his change, based on thier love for Christianity, they can't deny his change. I've counseled parents to change their child's teacher and the student's grades have raised. I belive in Improvement and seek it daily. Let's get improved.

Ashee,
SV



~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
If you have consumer debt, and you'd like to reduce the interest rate, and the amount owed, give me a text or a call @ 757-932-0177. Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a group of debt reduction specialists. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, financial services, real estate, radio, counseling and education (WHEW). Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-932-0177 for more details. At the time of this posting Seko is not active with World Financial Group, nor with financial services marketing.

#drumarjohnson #umarjohnson in Virginia Beach

He's controversial. He's polarizing.
He's opinionated. He's accused of being racist and homophobic.
He might be wrong, but he might be right.
So after listening to his speeches for two years, I decided to bring him to town.
Dr. Umar Johnson is speaking in Virginia Beach, Virginia on Sunday Feb 8th, 2015.
Be ye' prepared.......

Pray for me ya'll.
#umarjohnson #drumarjohnson

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

If you have consumer debt, and you'd like to reduce the interest rate, and the amount owed, give me a text or a call @ 757-932-0177. Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a group of debt reduction specialists. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, financial services, real estate, radio, counseling and education (WHEW). Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-932-0177 for more details. At the time of this posting Seko is not active with World Financial Group, nor with financial services marketing.