About to be - Seth Godin

"About to be" - Seth Godin

> The only way to become the writer who has written a book is to write one.

> The only way to become the runner who has just finished a run it to go running.

> You might dread the writing or the running or the leading, but it's the key step on the road to becoming.

> If it's easier, remind yourself what you're about to be.

 Seth Godin
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Happy Advent,
Seko B . E. Varner

#daddyman2015 - Fathers Helping Fathers & Single Mothers

#daddyman2015 

The Fathers Helping Fathers & Single Mothers conference !

FREE * Monday November 16th * 6:00 p.m. - 8:30 p.m. * Green Run High School, Virginia Beach, Virginia. Enjoy & Learn while Fathers tell their stories filled with guidance to aid fathers to avoid facing the destructive side of child support, to re-connect with their children, to solve deadbeat daddy and Baby Mama Drama, and to handle the challenge of a terminally ill child. A special session for Single Mothers raising Sons will be held as well. 

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If you have consumer debt, and you'd like to reduce the interest rate, and the amount owed, give me a text or a call @ 757-932-0177. Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Inc. This company combines entertainment, community activism, and financial literacy and debt reduction counseling. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, financial services, real estate, radio, counseling and education (WHEW). Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-932-0177 for more details. At the time of this posting Seko is not active with World Financial Group, nor with financial services marketing.

From Dr. Hayes - Be led by GOD

God's Blessings; As Men On The Mainline and Sistars United, we must devote time, thought, effort, and be led by God's word daily...I have discovered across my life that quiet time in his company is vital to the harmony and health of spirit and soul... PEACE BE WITH YOU! Rev M.Julius Hayes

Seek Empowered People (A message to high school graduates)

If you have consumer debt, and you'd like to reduce the interest rate, and the amount owed, give me a text or a call @ 757-932-0177. Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Inc. This company combines entertainment, community activism, and financial literacy and debt reduction counseling. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, financial services, real estate, radio, counseling and education (WHEW). Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-932-0177 for more details. At the time of this posting Seko is not active with World Financial Group, nor with financial services marketing.

Black History Month Community Movie Night 2-18-2015

This week at the Golden Fold Movement

Open to the Public * Come out for our Black History Movie Night

Wednesday 2/18/2015 The Golden Fold's Community Movie Night

500 Years Later

FREE 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm

The Boys & Girl's Club

1505 Competitor

Virginian Beach, VA

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I'd rather do it myself (another step towards failure)

"If you're up against a problem, meet it squarely face to face........"

     One of the things I've noticed with many of my intensive in-home counseling clientele is the propensity of many parents, particularly single mothers, to allow their children, primarily sons, to avoid things that they are not particularly talented at. In many cases these parents will do household chores for the boys stating "If I let him do it, I'll have to do it all over again. He does a horrible job. Id rather do it myself."

     Interestingly enough these same parents will then complain that the child is irresponsible. To many times the old adage "Mothers love their sons, and raise their daughters." rings true. The suggestion that these parents compel these sons to complete the chore and to teach them how to meet a standard is often met with resistance. Teaching them to walk by extending your hands in front of the infant, and baby-talking with them to teach them to walk was adorable and fun, but teaching them to be responsible seems like pulling teeth.

     If you want your child to be responsible, you have to give him responsibility and guide him while he moves from under-performance to satisfactory performance, to enable him to become responsible. "I've told him a thousand times..." is normally expressed by these parents. Explaining, discussions, nagging, yelling, or subtle hints normally doesn't work. Meet the problem squarely face to face with action, not with words. The opposite option normally leads your son another step towards failure.

SV

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     If you have consumer debt, and you'd like to reduce the interest rate, and the amount owed, give me a text or a call @ 757-932-0177. Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Inc. This company combines entertainment, counseling, community activism, financial literacy and debt reduction counseling.
     Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, financial services, real estate, radio, counseling and education (WHEW). Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-932-0177 for more details. At the time of this posting Seko is not active with World Financial Group, nor with financial services marketing.

I believe in.......

For the national day of writing - I believe:

      I believe in improvement. This is far deeper than a belief. I've seen people drastically improve thier lives by improving one thing. A parent that I'm counseling recently shared wih me that her "bad child" hasn't had a violent temper tantrum in 10 consecutive days. His norm was two days. She had changed one thing in their relationship and brought about a level of change.
     When I first met with the parent I brought out some dominos and placed 10 of them in a row. I pushed the first one in a row and all of them fell. I stood all of the dominos up again and then removed one of the dominos from the row. This time when I pushed the first one a different experience occured..... The area where the domino was removed reduced the momentum and force of the falling dominos reduced and 3 were left standing. I looked at her and stated "Change one thing and you change the experience." I then re-stood the 9 fallen dominos and removed a second domino from the row. This domino that I removed was immediately in front of the open area from the first domino I removed. This time when I pushed the first domino only two dominos fell. The remainder remained standing. I looked at her and stated "We need to determine whicch two things can be improved or removed in your household."
    I know a man who converted to Islam over a decade ago and became a far better man. While family members are still rebuking his change, based on thier love for Christianity, they can't deny his change. I've counseled parents to change their child's teacher and the student's grades have raised. I belive in Improvement and seek it daily. Let's get improved.

Ashee,
SV



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If you have consumer debt, and you'd like to reduce the interest rate, and the amount owed, give me a text or a call @ 757-932-0177. Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a group of debt reduction specialists. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, financial services, real estate, radio, counseling and education (WHEW). Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-932-0177 for more details. At the time of this posting Seko is not active with World Financial Group, nor with financial services marketing.

#drumarjohnson #umarjohnson in Virginia Beach

He's controversial. He's polarizing.
He's opinionated. He's accused of being racist and homophobic.
He might be wrong, but he might be right.
So after listening to his speeches for two years, I decided to bring him to town.
Dr. Umar Johnson is speaking in Virginia Beach, Virginia on Sunday Feb 8th, 2015.
Be ye' prepared.......

Pray for me ya'll.
#umarjohnson #drumarjohnson

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If you have consumer debt, and you'd like to reduce the interest rate, and the amount owed, give me a text or a call @ 757-932-0177. Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a group of debt reduction specialists. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, financial services, real estate, radio, counseling and education (WHEW). Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-932-0177 for more details. At the time of this posting Seko is not active with World Financial Group, nor with financial services marketing.

Sometimes you have to let it go. (FREEdom)

Sometimes you have to let go. I recently met with a custodial parent who deeply wanted a son to have better relationship with the other non-custodial parent but didn't have any reason to trust the non-custodial parent with the child's best interests. The other parent refused to talk unless the discussion was in the direction of gaining custody. To attempt to bully the custodial parent into providing custody the other parent repeatedly made loud, demeaning, profanity laden statements in front of the child towards the custodial parent. The child also joined the non-custodial parent in the tirade. As we talked the custodial parent couldn't get past the fact that the non-custodial parent and the child were both emotionally and verbally abusive. "What do I do now" asked the custodial parent. I replied "Let it go (speaking of the interactions which are always demeaning). You can stay in one place and wallow in the anger and depression or you can let go and keep it moving." 30 minutes later the custodial parent agreed by stating "If I want something different I have to do something different. I need to let it go, nothing will change if I stay dealing with them like this." This parent let go of an abusive interaction and subsequently refused to have interactions with the other parent. Sometimes you have to let it go. 
Let go of your demeaning relationships.
Let do of your debt.
Let go of your inhibiting inhibitions.
Let go.
Enjoy the music.

Soulful Steppers Flow #13 (Chicago Step-Two Step-Hand Dance-Boppers-Ballroomers) - DJ Seko Varner by Dj Seko Of Positive Vibes Djs on Mixcloud

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If you have consumer debt, and you'd like to reduce the interest rate, and the amount owed, give me a text or a call @ 757-932-0177. Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a group of debt reduction specialists. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, financial services, real estate, radio, counseling and education (WHEW). Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-932-0177 for more details. At the time of this posting Seko is not active with World Financial Group, nor with financial services marketing.

No cover charge, NO BRAINER

FREELOAD Friday Nights at Cloud 9 R&B

10 pm - 2 am - NO COVER CHARGE
Each Friday Night Jan. - May 2015

Enjoy R&B, Soul, Line Dance, Carib' & Latin, House Music, and a tad bit of Hip-Hop & Go-Go

No cover charge & D.J. Seko ! No Brainer'

FREELoad (Download) past episodes below:

http://www.mixcloud.com/PositiveVibesDJs/

As a form of giving back "DJ Seko" is performing from Jan. - May 2015 on Friday Nights at Cloud 9 R&B. If you have a not-for-profit for which you're raising funds, contact Seko to arrange a Donation-Night for your organization !!
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If you have consumer debt, and you'd like to reduce the interest rate, and the amount owed, give me a text or a call @ 757-932-0177. Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a group of debt reduction specialists. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, financial services, real estate, radio, counseling and education (WHEW). Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-932-0177 for more details. At the time of this posting Seko is not active with World Financial Group, nor with financial services marketing.

Merry Coptic Christmas !! (Something is born anew that can change your world)

Today, January 6th, is Christmas Eve for the Coptic Church. (Salutes to my Ethiopians and all others who still observe the first and earlier calendar dates of the Christmas observance/Holy-Day/Holiday !!!)

A few days ago I went shopping and saw a young attractive cashier. As I walked up to the counter I noticed the Coptic Cross on her neck. To be sure I asked "Is that a Coptic Cross ?". She looked at me a little surprised, shook her head, and uttered "It's an Ethiopian Cross, it's from Ethiopia." as she placed my groceries into the grocery bag. "Right, it's a Coptic Cross. Won't you be celebrating Christmas on January 6th or 7th this year ?" I replied. "I'm sorry maybe I was mistaken, your features and your name on your name tag struck me as being Ethiopian." A smile was followed by a look of shock as she asked "How did you know ? How do you know these things ?" I laughed and stated "I've been around a lot of Ethiopians, besides our people should know about our people. - Merry Christmas in a few days." She smiled and expressed thanks as I walked out of the store.

As I walked out of the store it struck me, while the date was of Christmas was changed around 1583, the message of "something being born anew that can change your world" is a daily opportunity. Just as some people have ignorantly told our Ethiopian and Coptic family that they are "celebrating wrong" I think the realization that every day is a new born opportunity misses too many folk. Celebrate today as a new birth, and go out and do something that will change your world. Merry Coptic Christmas !

SV 
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If you have consumer debt, and you'd like to reduce the interest rate, and the amount owed, give me a text or a call @ 757-932-0177. Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a group of debt reduction specialists. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, financial services, real estate, radio, counseling and education (WHEW). Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-932-0177 for more details.

Move Forward. Take the STEP.

So she said "I'm not sure if I should apply. I don't like to fail." After a short period of silence I replied "I'm sure that has helped you avoid a lot of heart-ache. Has it helped you achieve ?" She smiled. "I see where you're going with this Mr. Varner" she stated. "No, it hasn't helped me achieve." I smiled and remained silent. "O.K. I'll complete the application.........I'll do it now." she stated. I smiled, nodded, and pointed to the computer station where the student slowly walked, sat down, and began her college application.

Back to you, the reader......What opportunities have you recently avoided to avoid heartache ?
Know this...... When you avoid heart-ache, you also avoid God's luck and oppurtunity.
Take the step. Move Forward. Take the STEP.

SV
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If you have consumer debt, and you'd like to reduce the interest rate, and the amount owed, give me a text or a call @ 757-932-0177. Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a group of debt reduction specialists. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, financial services, real estate, radio, counseling and education (WHEW). Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-932-0177 for more details.

One for all - Is all for one

Photo: Silent Praise Mine Ministry 12-30-2013

Someone has to lead. It's supposed to be you.
Someone will learn from their mistakes. It's supposed to be you.
When you take that step forward or Backwards, LIFE will meet you three fold.
ONE step can change ALL that you experience.
ALL of the world is waiting for you to take ONE step.
One 4 All is All for One. (Salutes to Brand Nubians)
Move forward.

Seko "DJ Seko" Varner
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If you have consumer debt, and you'd like to reduce the interest rate, and the amount owed, give me a text or a call @ 757-932-0177. Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a group of debt reduction specialists. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, financial services, real estate, radio, counseling and education (WHEW). Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-932-0177 for more details.