Photo Omi & Seko circa' 1998
Here's a guest post from my brother from another Mother and Father - Omi ! Omi and I have been brothers since 1997, and I have always learned something each time we link-up. I credit Omi with my entre' into electronic media. Omi is a B-boy, scholar, and freelance writer. A New Yorker born and bred who now resides in the midwest.You can find more Dan at his blogs, most notably:
http://selfra.blogspot.com/
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When I get asked
how my wife and I met, I always warn the person or people who ask
that it's boring. It really is. It wasn't love at first sight which I
don't believe in at all. It wasn't a “moment” where the entire
room stopped as if we were in some kind of emotionally controlled
time shift. There is nothing spectacular about it. I am also finding
out that many of us embellish the “how we met” story to make it
sound more dramatic. We make it fairy tale land. Then when the
relationship doesn't work out, we don't even bring up that story
anymore.
One story I love
telling and I thought I blogged about but never did, is when I
realized my wife was definitely a keeper. I want to warn folks by
telling them that its not going to be the same for everyone else. So
don't try to make the same thing happen. There is just simply
different strokes for different folks. We all have our own tastes,
preferences, bias, etc. So my story will not be yours and vice versa.
Just keep that in
mind as you read along.
It was probably
our 10th date. I think we had several dates and several
times where we just hung out at my place or hers. I never counted
hanging out at someone's house as a “date.” So my math could be
wrong. My son was going to be in this wedding as a Bible bearer. Yes,
they have those, too. I thought it would be a great time to introduce
X to her. At that time, we weren't actually official either. I really
dug her and loved her company. We spent hours talking. The sex was
great as well. In the back of my mind, I did want to commit. At that
time, she wanted us to ease into it. So I obliged her.
To be honest, I
thought she would be weirded out if I asked out to a wedding.
Especially one where my ex would be there. If there is a saboteur out
there, it would be her. Back then I always threw an olive branch to
her and she always burned it. Heck, she still does it's just that I
stopped extending them joints to her. She thought it was a great
idea. That's one thing I always loved about my wife, she was down for
anything.
The wedding
location was about a half a mile from my place and it began at
1:30pm. She asked if she could come by my place at around 11:30. I
thought it would be great. She showed up right on time but I noticed
she wasn't dressed for a wedding. I know what you are thinking. She
wasn't dressed for a club either. She was more dressed to help me put
up a shelf. She looked great but not wedding great. A red flag went
up.
We talked as I
ironed. It was a wonderful conversation. In the back of my mind, I
thought to myself “I hope this heffer ain't thinking about going to
the store to buy some clothes before the wedding. We definitely don't
have time for that.” Yet she never mentioned anything and we kept
talking. At around 12:45pm, I asked, “are you ready?”
I expected her to
say “can we go to a department store so I can pick up some stuff?”
If she did, I had a speech prepared.
“Can I borrow
your iron?” She asked.
After I agreed,
she pulled out some fabric from her bag. She cut the fabric into two
pieces and ironed it. Then she pulled out a beautiful top and ironed
that as well. When she was done, she made a skirt with a matching
head wrap. I was enthralled. I never saw anything like that in my
entire life. The entire transformation took about 15 minutes. I was
breathless.
I thought to
myself, “if you let her go you are an idiot...”
I remember heading
to the church. Everyone stopped with their jaws opened. Some people
even asked “are you a princess of some sort?” I wanted to say
“yes!”
And that was the
beginning...
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