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Friday, September 23, 2016
Generation One in Norfolk, Virginia
@ForwardEverVirginia, Positive Vibes Inc. and
WhereBlackBiz.com presents a screening of Lamar and
Ronnie Tyler's documentary Generation One: The Search for
Black Wealth starring Dr. Boyce Watkins and Dr. David
Anderson. Special in-theater guest Dr. David Anderson
(from the film) doing Q&A and Dropping gems like only he
can ! Thursday 10-13-2016 @ 7:30 pm @ Naro Cinema in
Norfolk, Virginia. 1507 Colley Ave, Norfolk, Virginia 23517
Tickets are online at EventBrite or call 757-932-0177 or
email WhereBlackBiz@gmail.com .
Generation One takes a hard look at the numbers, giving
historical context to early wealth creation in the Black
community and tapping the expertise of the nation’s top
financial experts to weigh in not only on how Blacks fell
behind, but surefire strategies families can implement to
begin building a strong financial legacy for generations to
come.
Buy your tickets here !
http://www.eventbrite.com/e/generation-one-in-norfolk-tickets-27794244333?aff=aff0eventful
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If you have consumer debt, and you'd like to reduce the interest rate, and the amount owed, give me a text or a call @ 757-932-0177. Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Inc. This company combines entertainment, community activism, and financial literacy and debt reduction counseling. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, financial services, real estate, radio, counseling and education (WHEW). Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-932-0177 for more details. At the time of this posting Seko continues with debt removal services, yet he is not active with World Financial Group, nor with financial services marketing.
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Monday, February 16, 2015
I'd rather do it myself (another step towards failure)
"If you're up against a problem, meet it squarely face to face........"
One of the things I've noticed with many of my intensive in-home counseling clientele is the propensity of many parents, particularly single mothers, to allow their children, primarily sons, to avoid things that they are not particularly talented at. In many cases these parents will do household chores for the boys stating "If I let him do it, I'll have to do it all over again. He does a horrible job. Id rather do it myself."
Interestingly enough these same parents will then complain that the child is irresponsible. To many times the old adage "Mothers love their sons, and raise their daughters." rings true. The suggestion that these parents compel these sons to complete the chore and to teach them how to meet a standard is often met with resistance. Teaching them to walk by extending your hands in front of the infant, and baby-talking with them to teach them to walk was adorable and fun, but teaching them to be responsible seems like pulling teeth.
If you want your child to be responsible, you have to give him responsibility and guide him while he moves from under-performance to satisfactory performance, to enable him to become responsible. "I've told him a thousand times..." is normally expressed by these parents. Explaining, discussions, nagging, yelling, or subtle hints normally doesn't work. Meet the problem squarely face to face with action, not with words. The opposite option normally leads your son another step towards failure.
SV
Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, financial services, real estate, radio, counseling and education (WHEW). Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-932-0177 for more details. At the time of this posting Seko is not active with World Financial Group, nor with financial services marketing.
One of the things I've noticed with many of my intensive in-home counseling clientele is the propensity of many parents, particularly single mothers, to allow their children, primarily sons, to avoid things that they are not particularly talented at. In many cases these parents will do household chores for the boys stating "If I let him do it, I'll have to do it all over again. He does a horrible job. Id rather do it myself."
Interestingly enough these same parents will then complain that the child is irresponsible. To many times the old adage "Mothers love their sons, and raise their daughters." rings true. The suggestion that these parents compel these sons to complete the chore and to teach them how to meet a standard is often met with resistance. Teaching them to walk by extending your hands in front of the infant, and baby-talking with them to teach them to walk was adorable and fun, but teaching them to be responsible seems like pulling teeth.
If you want your child to be responsible, you have to give him responsibility and guide him while he moves from under-performance to satisfactory performance, to enable him to become responsible. "I've told him a thousand times..." is normally expressed by these parents. Explaining, discussions, nagging, yelling, or subtle hints normally doesn't work. Meet the problem squarely face to face with action, not with words. The opposite option normally leads your son another step towards failure.
SV
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If you have consumer debt, and you'd like to reduce the interest rate, and the amount owed, give me a text or a call @ 757-932-0177.
Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Inc. This company combines entertainment, counseling, community activism, financial literacy and debt reduction counseling.Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, financial services, real estate, radio, counseling and education (WHEW). Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-932-0177 for more details. At the time of this posting Seko is not active with World Financial Group, nor with financial services marketing.
Sunday, December 29, 2013
Monday December 30th in Virginia Beach, Va. - Kwanzaa Event at 6 pm
Watch the Tariq Nasheed's Hidden Colors Movie !
Learn the latest line dances !
Battle the KujiCHESSgulia Chess masters !
Witness Ubuntu Dance Collective !
Join the Afro-Zumba of Sparkle !
Check the Goju Karate Demonstration Team !
Enjoy Culture & Crafts with Clayton Singleton !
Hip-Hop with the Zulu Nation !
Praise with the Silent Praise Mime Team !
Stomp with the KAOSS Step Team !
Meet business and companies with great items !
Take FREE photos with R2Z Entertainment !
Party with DJ B*WIN & DJ Seko !
Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a World Financial Group team of financial services agents. They specialize in debt reduction, investments, and insurances. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, real estate, counseling and education. Seko is active with numerous Youth Mentorship programs and has a background in radio and television. Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-248-3820 for more details.
Learn the latest line dances !
Battle the KujiCHESSgulia Chess masters !
Witness Ubuntu Dance Collective !
Join the Afro-Zumba of Sparkle !
Check the Goju Karate Demonstration Team !
Enjoy Culture & Crafts with Clayton Singleton !
Hip-Hop with the Zulu Nation !
Praise with the Silent Praise Mime Team !
Stomp with the KAOSS Step Team !
Meet business and companies with great items !
Take FREE photos with R2Z Entertainment !
Party with DJ B*WIN & DJ Seko !
Monday December 30th 6:00 - 9:00 pm. 1505 Competitor Court, Virginia Beach, Va.
Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a World Financial Group team of financial services agents. They specialize in debt reduction, investments, and insurances. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, real estate, counseling and education. Seko is active with numerous Youth Mentorship programs and has a background in radio and television. Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-248-3820 for more details.
Sunday, October 27, 2013
When I figured it out... Brother Omi (Guest Post)
Photo Omi & Seko circa' 1998
Here's a guest post from my brother from another Mother and Father - Omi ! Omi and I have been brothers since 1997, and I have always learned something each time we link-up. I credit Omi with my entre' into electronic media. Omi is a B-boy, scholar, and freelance writer. A New Yorker born and bred who now resides in the midwest.You can find more Dan at his blogs, most notably:
http://selfra.blogspot.com/
Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes' Entertainment and Financial Departments. They specialize in Debt Reduction Finances, and Fun. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ. Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-248-3820 for more details.
Here's a guest post from my brother from another Mother and Father - Omi ! Omi and I have been brothers since 1997, and I have always learned something each time we link-up. I credit Omi with my entre' into electronic media. Omi is a B-boy, scholar, and freelance writer. A New Yorker born and bred who now resides in the midwest.You can find more Dan at his blogs, most notably:
http://selfra.blogspot.com/
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When I get asked
how my wife and I met, I always warn the person or people who ask
that it's boring. It really is. It wasn't love at first sight which I
don't believe in at all. It wasn't a “moment” where the entire
room stopped as if we were in some kind of emotionally controlled
time shift. There is nothing spectacular about it. I am also finding
out that many of us embellish the “how we met” story to make it
sound more dramatic. We make it fairy tale land. Then when the
relationship doesn't work out, we don't even bring up that story
anymore.
One story I love
telling and I thought I blogged about but never did, is when I
realized my wife was definitely a keeper. I want to warn folks by
telling them that its not going to be the same for everyone else. So
don't try to make the same thing happen. There is just simply
different strokes for different folks. We all have our own tastes,
preferences, bias, etc. So my story will not be yours and vice versa.
Just keep that in
mind as you read along.
It was probably
our 10th date. I think we had several dates and several
times where we just hung out at my place or hers. I never counted
hanging out at someone's house as a “date.” So my math could be
wrong. My son was going to be in this wedding as a Bible bearer. Yes,
they have those, too. I thought it would be a great time to introduce
X to her. At that time, we weren't actually official either. I really
dug her and loved her company. We spent hours talking. The sex was
great as well. In the back of my mind, I did want to commit. At that
time, she wanted us to ease into it. So I obliged her.
To be honest, I
thought she would be weirded out if I asked out to a wedding.
Especially one where my ex would be there. If there is a saboteur out
there, it would be her. Back then I always threw an olive branch to
her and she always burned it. Heck, she still does it's just that I
stopped extending them joints to her. She thought it was a great
idea. That's one thing I always loved about my wife, she was down for
anything.
The wedding
location was about a half a mile from my place and it began at
1:30pm. She asked if she could come by my place at around 11:30. I
thought it would be great. She showed up right on time but I noticed
she wasn't dressed for a wedding. I know what you are thinking. She
wasn't dressed for a club either. She was more dressed to help me put
up a shelf. She looked great but not wedding great. A red flag went
up.
We talked as I
ironed. It was a wonderful conversation. In the back of my mind, I
thought to myself “I hope this heffer ain't thinking about going to
the store to buy some clothes before the wedding. We definitely don't
have time for that.” Yet she never mentioned anything and we kept
talking. At around 12:45pm, I asked, “are you ready?”
I expected her to
say “can we go to a department store so I can pick up some stuff?”
If she did, I had a speech prepared.
“Can I borrow
your iron?” She asked.
After I agreed,
she pulled out some fabric from her bag. She cut the fabric into two
pieces and ironed it. Then she pulled out a beautiful top and ironed
that as well. When she was done, she made a skirt with a matching
head wrap. I was enthralled. I never saw anything like that in my
entire life. The entire transformation took about 15 minutes. I was
breathless.
I thought to
myself, “if you let her go you are an idiot...”
I remember heading
to the church. Everyone stopped with their jaws opened. Some people
even asked “are you a princess of some sort?” I wanted to say
“yes!”
And that was the
beginning...
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes' Entertainment and Financial Departments. They specialize in Debt Reduction Finances, and Fun. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ. Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-248-3820 for more details.
Tuesday, February 26, 2013
Family of 4 shows the way to Financial FREEdom
This is one of the best examples of living for the future. America, we can get out of debt !
Don't believe me just watch:
Seko
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The original post is here:
http://finance.yahoo.com/news/how-a-family-of-four-manages-to-live-well-on-just--14-000-per-year-174803218.html
By Mandi Woodruff | Business Insider
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Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a World Financial Group team of financial services agents. They specialize in debt reduction, investments, and insurances. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, real estate, counseling and education. Seko is active with numerous Youth Mentorship programs and has a background in radio and television. Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-248-3820 for more details.
Don't believe me just watch:
Seko
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The original post is here:
http://finance.yahoo.com/news/how-a-family-of-four-manages-to-live-well-on-just--14-000-per-year-174803218.html
- Business Insider - Photo: Courtesy of Danielle Wagasky
In the years since the recession, the median
household income in the U.S. has dropped to just over $50,000, while
fixed costs like health care, higher education, and housing have only
soared. Now imagine trying to support a family of four on a fraction of
that income.
It's a reality that stay-at-home wife and mother of two Danielle Wagasky has lived for the last four years. And, perhaps a little surprisingly, she wouldn't have it any other way.
Wagasky, 28, lives with her her husband, Jason, 31, and their two young children in a three-bedroom family home in Las Vegas, Nevada. While Jason, a member of the U.S. Army, completes his undergraduate studies, the family's only source of income is the $14,000 annual cost of living allowance he receives under the G.I. Bill. Despite all odds, the family has barely any credit card debt, no car payment, and no mortgage to speak of.
Wagasky has been sharing her journey to living meaningfully and frugally on her blog, Blissful and Domestic, since 2009.
She was kind enough to chat with BI and tell us how she makes it work.
Wagasky finds inspiration everywhere from the library to tips from readers on her blog.
Amazon "My husband told me he'd heard about this book, [America's Cheapest Family Gets You Right on the Money
]," she said. "We talked about it over the phone and I read it and thought how it could apply to us."
The couple had a single savings goal in mind –– scraping together $30,000 for a down-payment on their home in their native Henderson, Nevada.
The mindless spending was out, and Wagasky came up with a budget she could make work. "I changed the way I was grocery shopping and started working my way up, " she said.
She stopped eating out and learned how to cook.
Wagasky barely knew her way around a kitchen when she started her money makeover.
Now she's an avid cookbook collector (she checks them out from libraries or asks for them as gifts to save), and it's one of the simplest ways she's managed to cutback on spending.
With a $7 bread-maker she scored at a local thrift shop, she never spends on store bought slices. She's not shy about professing her love for wholesale stores like Costco, which is her go-to source for baking ingredients.
Everything in the home is either hand-sewn and or made from scratch.
seth w./Flickr"Everything
must be budgeted," Wagasky wrote in a June entry on her blog. "From
family outings, to toiletries to clothes purchases. It must be
budgeted."
And she takes Do-It-Yourself to the extreme. Everything from laundry soap and clothing to the kitchen her husband installed in their new home was either crafted by hand or thrifted.
She swears by this home-made laundry detergent recipe.
The family swapped cable for Netflix and Hulu.
When it come to cutting costs, cable was as easy luxury to part ways with.
With two children aged 6 and 8 to entertain, Wagasky invests $14.99 in a Netflix plan and recently added Hulu to the mix.
The family also uses a simple antennae to pick up basic cable channels.
She goes to the grocery store once per month, pays cash, and never goes over budget.
REUTERS/Mario AnzuoniWith a single source of fixed income, there's no room for impulse purchases in the Wagasky household.
They budget $400 for groceries each month and that's it.
"Once that $400 is gone, it is gone," she writes. "There are no extra shopping trips made because there is no more money."
They are a cash-only household but keep a credit card for emergencies.
Wagasky said they have no credit debt, but they do charge emergency expenses on plastic when absolutely necessary.
"We recently had some medical bills we had to pay, and we were able to take our savings and pay those down as fast as we could," she said.
They fill up their tanks once per month and combine errands as much as possible.
REUTERS/Pichi ChuangWith gas prices creeping higher each all the time, the Wagaskys watch their mileage like hawks.
That means combining errands together and doing all they can to make one tank of gas last a month.
"We know we don't get to drive and visit family often, so when we do we cherish it," she wrote in a blog entry.
"We don't go just for an hour, we stay and visit and even run errands that may be close to where we have family. We try to remember that when the gas is gone...it is gone."
They paid for both of their cars in cash and have no car payments.
After Wagasky's husband left active duty and started school, the couple knew they would only have $14,000 per year to live on.
So they paid off the $8,000 he owed on his truck while he was earning more and they could afford the expense.
They also bought a van, which they saved $10,000 for initially and were able to pay the remaining $12,000 owed within a year.
Having zero car payments is a nice relief.
She skips all kiddie snacks in favor of healthier, cheaper DIY options.
AP Photo/Brennan LinsleyLike
anyone with simple math skills, Wagasky was quick to realize how much
cash she was wasting on prepackaged snacks for her children.
She cut them out completely and whips up homemade granola bars and trail mix instead.
If she can freeze food, she will.
If you're on a tight food budget, your freezer will become your best friend.
Wagasky chops vegetables and fruits and freezes them for a month. She actually does the same for dairy products like cheese, butter and yogurt.
"I am able to freeze about 8 gallons of milk each month," she writes. "They sit at the bottom of my freezer and we thaw them out when we need them." Baked goods get the same chilly treatment.
She uses a food co-op to save on fresh produce.
REUTERS/Mario AnzuoniWagasky
was dubious about joining a food co-op, but after three months, she
realized she would never beat the savings or quality she found.
Food co-ops pool membership fees together in order to fund a monthly harvest that's distributed at designated pick-up points.
A couple of times per month, Wagasky gets a basketful of in-season produce for $15 –– way better bargain than she'd ever find in stores.
They took advantage of Nevada's declining housing market to score a cheap foreclosure.
By the time Wagasky's husband came home from Iraq, they had managed to scrape together the $30,000 they needed for a downpayment on a home.
"But we decided the best option would be not to have a mortgage payment at all," she said. "We found a fixer-upper that didn't have a kitchen ... and we paid cash."
Price tag: $28,000. With the leftover cash, they were able to finish the kitchen and install wood flooring throughout the house.
It's a reality that stay-at-home wife and mother of two Danielle Wagasky has lived for the last four years. And, perhaps a little surprisingly, she wouldn't have it any other way.
Wagasky, 28, lives with her her husband, Jason, 31, and their two young children in a three-bedroom family home in Las Vegas, Nevada. While Jason, a member of the U.S. Army, completes his undergraduate studies, the family's only source of income is the $14,000 annual cost of living allowance he receives under the G.I. Bill. Despite all odds, the family has barely any credit card debt, no car payment, and no mortgage to speak of.
Wagasky has been sharing her journey to living meaningfully and frugally on her blog, Blissful and Domestic, since 2009.
She was kind enough to chat with BI and tell us how she makes it work.
Wagasky finds inspiration everywhere from the library to tips from readers on her blog.
The couple had a single savings goal in mind –– scraping together $30,000 for a down-payment on their home in their native Henderson, Nevada.
The mindless spending was out, and Wagasky came up with a budget she could make work. "I changed the way I was grocery shopping and started working my way up, " she said.
She stopped eating out and learned how to cook.
Wagasky barely knew her way around a kitchen when she started her money makeover.
Now she's an avid cookbook collector (she checks them out from libraries or asks for them as gifts to save), and it's one of the simplest ways she's managed to cutback on spending.
With a $7 bread-maker she scored at a local thrift shop, she never spends on store bought slices. She's not shy about professing her love for wholesale stores like Costco, which is her go-to source for baking ingredients.
Everything in the home is either hand-sewn and or made from scratch.
And she takes Do-It-Yourself to the extreme. Everything from laundry soap and clothing to the kitchen her husband installed in their new home was either crafted by hand or thrifted.
She swears by this home-made laundry detergent recipe.
The family swapped cable for Netflix and Hulu.
When it come to cutting costs, cable was as easy luxury to part ways with.
With two children aged 6 and 8 to entertain, Wagasky invests $14.99 in a Netflix plan and recently added Hulu to the mix.
The family also uses a simple antennae to pick up basic cable channels.
She goes to the grocery store once per month, pays cash, and never goes over budget.
They budget $400 for groceries each month and that's it.
"Once that $400 is gone, it is gone," she writes. "There are no extra shopping trips made because there is no more money."
They are a cash-only household but keep a credit card for emergencies.
Wagasky said they have no credit debt, but they do charge emergency expenses on plastic when absolutely necessary.
"We recently had some medical bills we had to pay, and we were able to take our savings and pay those down as fast as we could," she said.
They fill up their tanks once per month and combine errands as much as possible.
That means combining errands together and doing all they can to make one tank of gas last a month.
"We know we don't get to drive and visit family often, so when we do we cherish it," she wrote in a blog entry.
"We don't go just for an hour, we stay and visit and even run errands that may be close to where we have family. We try to remember that when the gas is gone...it is gone."
They paid for both of their cars in cash and have no car payments.
After Wagasky's husband left active duty and started school, the couple knew they would only have $14,000 per year to live on.
So they paid off the $8,000 he owed on his truck while he was earning more and they could afford the expense.
They also bought a van, which they saved $10,000 for initially and were able to pay the remaining $12,000 owed within a year.
Having zero car payments is a nice relief.
She skips all kiddie snacks in favor of healthier, cheaper DIY options.
She cut them out completely and whips up homemade granola bars and trail mix instead.
If she can freeze food, she will.
If you're on a tight food budget, your freezer will become your best friend.
Wagasky chops vegetables and fruits and freezes them for a month. She actually does the same for dairy products like cheese, butter and yogurt.
"I am able to freeze about 8 gallons of milk each month," she writes. "They sit at the bottom of my freezer and we thaw them out when we need them." Baked goods get the same chilly treatment.
She uses a food co-op to save on fresh produce.
Food co-ops pool membership fees together in order to fund a monthly harvest that's distributed at designated pick-up points.
A couple of times per month, Wagasky gets a basketful of in-season produce for $15 –– way better bargain than she'd ever find in stores.
They took advantage of Nevada's declining housing market to score a cheap foreclosure.
By the time Wagasky's husband came home from Iraq, they had managed to scrape together the $30,000 they needed for a downpayment on a home.
"But we decided the best option would be not to have a mortgage payment at all," she said. "We found a fixer-upper that didn't have a kitchen ... and we paid cash."
Price tag: $28,000. With the leftover cash, they were able to finish the kitchen and install wood flooring throughout the house.
By Mandi Woodruff | Business Insider
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Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a World Financial Group team of financial services agents. They specialize in debt reduction, investments, and insurances. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, real estate, counseling and education. Seko is active with numerous Youth Mentorship programs and has a background in radio and television. Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-248-3820 for more details.
Sunday, February 3, 2013
My brothers are Baltimore Ravens ! Dad is so proud !
In honor of the superbowl I wanted to post a photo of my brothers playing for the Baltimore Ravens !
O.K................They are my fraternity brothers.......... I'm still tossing up my hooks !
ROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO !
America, Enjoy the Superbowl !
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Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a World Financial Group team of financial services agents. They specialize in debt reduction, investments, and insurances.
Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, real estate, counseling and education.
Seko is active with numerous Youth Mentorship programs and has a background in radio and television.
Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-248-3820 for more details.
O.K................They are my fraternity brothers.......... I'm still tossing up my hooks !
ROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO !
America, Enjoy the Superbowl !
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Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a World Financial Group team of financial services agents. They specialize in debt reduction, investments, and insurances.
Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, real estate, counseling and education.
Seko is active with numerous Youth Mentorship programs and has a background in radio and television.
Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-248-3820 for more details.
Friday, February 1, 2013
Nobody else can do this for us - Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
"Nobody else can do this for us" - America's King
I was raised with reverence for the Almighty, a path of following Yeshua (Jesus the Christ), an understanding that all I was given was given for me to give, a love of America, and a love of Africa. As I frequently spent time in primarily "White" environments as a child I learned early on that I couldn't fully publicly celebrate in February's Black History Month. In the environments I've been employed in I frequently silently smiled at comments from people of African descent who would attempt to 'fit in' by publicly watering down Black History Month as they worried that the recognition would "cause more harm"..... Americans seem to use the strategy of dilution frequently. The honorable Dr. King was watered down to "I have a Dream." (Many will say that this speech wasn't his finest). The honorable Rosa Parks was watered down to one act of courage (an act she did more than once, and and act that was done numerous times before her). The honorable Marcus Mosiah Garvey was diluted to "Back to Africa." (Nuff said) and the White and Jewish Americans who made decisions that complemented the acts of the aforementioned are rarely mentioned. (Somebody "White" had to sign to change the 'Un-American yet strangely American' laws that Dr. King's activities were able to nudge towards change). I, however, wasn't taught diluted history which relates to people who have a glorious African ancestry.
I was raised being taught about Mexico's 2nd President who was proudly of African descent. I was taught the hidden Black history of the 'Three Musketeers" candy bar. I was taught about the atrocities and hidden gems of Christianity's Black History (in example: the African cultural and regional origins of the man who is recorded to carry the cross for Christ) and I was warned by my parents and teachers that even as we are Americans, Americans will not fondly allow "us" to publicly celebrate the African aspect of ourselves.
I realize that this post may make some feel uneasy. Rest assured. We love you as well. Celebrating one aspect of myself doesn't reduce a love I have for other parts of my American and Human and everything else existence. "So for those that have ears"........Here are some of the things that I was taught.
Here's some of the Dr. King I was raised on:
“I come here tonight & plead with you, believe in yourself & believe that you’re somebody…nobody else can do this for us, no document can do this for us, no Lincolnian Emancipation Proclamation can do this for us, no Kennedisonian or Johnsonian civil rights bill can do this for us, if the negro is to be free he must move down into the inner resources of his own soul & sign with a pen an ink of self assertive manhood his own emancipation proclamation…don’t let anybody take your manhood, be proud of our heritage…we don’t have anything to be ashamed of, somebody told a lie one day, they couched it in language, they made everything black ugly & evil, look in your dictionary & see the synonyms of the word black- it’s always something degrading, low & sinister look at the word white, it’s always something pure..well I want to get the language right tonight, I want to get the language so right that everybody here will cry out YES I AM BLACK & I’M PROUD OF IT, I AM BLACK & BEAUTIFUL!” - Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
Here's some more of the Dr. King I was raised on:
“We must see now that the evils of racism, economic exploitation and militarism are all tied together ... you can't really get rid of one without getting rid of the others... the whole structure of American life must be changed. America is a hypocritical nation and (we) must put (our) own house in order.” - Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
“There must be a better distribution of wealth and maybe America must move toward a democratic socialism." - Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
“The shirtless and barefoot people of the land are rising up as never before. The people who sat in darkness have seen a great light. We in the West must support these revolutions.” - Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
During this month I invite you to enjoy my past lessons and to consider that "Nobody else can do this for us." Whatever it is that I, you, we - need to change.....Nobody else can do this for us.... We must do it for ourselves, for our ancestors, and to the glory of the Almighty. God, continue to bless America.
Remain beloved, beloved.
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Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a World Financial Group team of financial services agents. They specialize in debt reduction, investments, and insurances. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, real estate, counseling and education. Seko is active with numerous Youth Mentorship programs and has a background in radio and television. Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-248-3820 for more details.
I was raised with reverence for the Almighty, a path of following Yeshua (Jesus the Christ), an understanding that all I was given was given for me to give, a love of America, and a love of Africa. As I frequently spent time in primarily "White" environments as a child I learned early on that I couldn't fully publicly celebrate in February's Black History Month. In the environments I've been employed in I frequently silently smiled at comments from people of African descent who would attempt to 'fit in' by publicly watering down Black History Month as they worried that the recognition would "cause more harm"..... Americans seem to use the strategy of dilution frequently. The honorable Dr. King was watered down to "I have a Dream." (Many will say that this speech wasn't his finest). The honorable Rosa Parks was watered down to one act of courage (an act she did more than once, and and act that was done numerous times before her). The honorable Marcus Mosiah Garvey was diluted to "Back to Africa." (Nuff said) and the White and Jewish Americans who made decisions that complemented the acts of the aforementioned are rarely mentioned. (Somebody "White" had to sign to change the 'Un-American yet strangely American' laws that Dr. King's activities were able to nudge towards change). I, however, wasn't taught diluted history which relates to people who have a glorious African ancestry.
I was raised being taught about Mexico's 2nd President who was proudly of African descent. I was taught the hidden Black history of the 'Three Musketeers" candy bar. I was taught about the atrocities and hidden gems of Christianity's Black History (in example: the African cultural and regional origins of the man who is recorded to carry the cross for Christ) and I was warned by my parents and teachers that even as we are Americans, Americans will not fondly allow "us" to publicly celebrate the African aspect of ourselves.
I realize that this post may make some feel uneasy. Rest assured. We love you as well. Celebrating one aspect of myself doesn't reduce a love I have for other parts of my American and Human and everything else existence. "So for those that have ears"........Here are some of the things that I was taught.
Here's some of the Dr. King I was raised on:
“I come here tonight & plead with you, believe in yourself & believe that you’re somebody…nobody else can do this for us, no document can do this for us, no Lincolnian Emancipation Proclamation can do this for us, no Kennedisonian or Johnsonian civil rights bill can do this for us, if the negro is to be free he must move down into the inner resources of his own soul & sign with a pen an ink of self assertive manhood his own emancipation proclamation…don’t let anybody take your manhood, be proud of our heritage…we don’t have anything to be ashamed of, somebody told a lie one day, they couched it in language, they made everything black ugly & evil, look in your dictionary & see the synonyms of the word black- it’s always something degrading, low & sinister look at the word white, it’s always something pure..well I want to get the language right tonight, I want to get the language so right that everybody here will cry out YES I AM BLACK & I’M PROUD OF IT, I AM BLACK & BEAUTIFUL!” - Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
Here's some more of the Dr. King I was raised on:
“We must see now that the evils of racism, economic exploitation and militarism are all tied together ... you can't really get rid of one without getting rid of the others... the whole structure of American life must be changed. America is a hypocritical nation and (we) must put (our) own house in order.” - Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
“There must be a better distribution of wealth and maybe America must move toward a democratic socialism." - Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
“The shirtless and barefoot people of the land are rising up as never before. The people who sat in darkness have seen a great light. We in the West must support these revolutions.” - Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
Remain beloved, beloved.
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Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a World Financial Group team of financial services agents. They specialize in debt reduction, investments, and insurances. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, real estate, counseling and education. Seko is active with numerous Youth Mentorship programs and has a background in radio and television. Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-248-3820 for more details.
Monday, January 28, 2013
Guest post - Feelin’ Some Kinda Way About Single Parenthood
Feelin’ Some Kinda Way ~ About Single Parenthood
By angelinad
I woke up this morning and realized something – I’m tired!I recently had a conversation with a married male friend who told me that he wanted to give me props. He was just leaving from a meeting of a volunteer board in which is he is a member, headed to pick up his children from day care and take then to little league practice. I believe it was his day to do so, and his wife would be headed home from work to get dinner started and waiting for her husband and children to get home. On the average week, he and his wife split the duties of shuttling the children around. They both work full time in jobs that are not exclusively 9 to 5, have outside commitments in their community and are active in their church. I was quietly wondering when they have time for each other.
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This is a guest post from AngelinaD. The full original post ,ay be found here:
http://angelinad.wordpress.com/2012/05/21/i-woke-up-this/
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This week, I worked my 9 to 5 each day. On several days during the week, I prepared dinner (my teenage daughter is on deck the other days); I shuttled my children to alternate activities on alternating days; I did laundry; I had two meetings with potential clients, I completed some work for an existing client; I picked up prescriptions for my mother and ran errands for her; I remembered that my inspection is due and I need an oil change; I took the children to the movies; and loaded groceries in the car in the rain. I wrote some things…this is all I care to share – this week. I am not alone. There are many single parents who share my plight, and we do what we do because there is no other positive choice, and because we can.
As single parents, we often find ourselves in situations that tire us out. The best we can hope for is often that we have children that are well-behaved and easy to manage. In recent years, I’ve had the best of both worlds; and at times, the worst of both worlds. So, I can relate; and I encourage single parents to remember to find ways to take a moment for yourself – to constantly rebuild yourself and to rejuvenate your spirit. Regardless of the behaviors we are faced to deal with, our children are still children. And so, we must remember that at all times. We try things that didn’t work and try some things that did. We sometimes must penalize one child because of the behaviors of another, simply because you are only one person and cannot do it all. I’m feelin’ some kinda way about single parenthood because parenthood is hard, but when you are one person, your time and responsibilities are stretched to the point of discomfort. Some people deal with the discomfort better than others. Remember to reach out and access your resources – social services, parks & recreation, community programs. Look into mentoring programs and encourage activities. It has been said that the idle mind is the devil’s workshop; work towards little idle time for your children. Remember we are all working towards the same goal – raising kids who can take care of themselves and benefit their families and the world.
“When I got tired, I slept. When I got hungry, I ate. When I had to go…you know…I went.” ~Forrest Gump
Maybe you asked for your single parent status, and maybe you didn’t. But, either way, do what you need…when you need…and remember your children…to give them what they need….
http://angelinad.wordpress.com/2012/05/21/i-woke-up-this/
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Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a World Financial Group team of financial services agents. They specialize in debt reduction, investments, and insurances. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, real estate, counseling and education. Seko is active with numerous Youth Mentorship programs and has a background in radio and television. Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-248-3820 for more details.
Wednesday, December 26, 2012
Umoja, Unity - We Are One in Splendor
We are one in splendor:
We stayed in the house today (12/26/2012). We watched BET's marathon of Alex Haley movies and explained aspects of America's history of Improvement with our children. In the midst of the marathon I smiled thinking how far my family has come based upon the stories my grandmothers told me of our history. I also grimaced, considering the difficult Christmas time my family has had this year. On New Years Eve I consoled a tearful and shaking woman who wondered aloud "I fought to stay alive for this ? I didn't stay alive for this life." Her words were like a cold drink on a bad tooth. I struggled to remain calm and whisper "I glad... We're glad that you decided to fight. We're glad you're alive Mom." Mom then shared her despair that the family seemed dis-jointed and her fears that wounds would never heal. "I just want us to be ONE." Forcing a smile I struggled to say "We Are One. We will remain one." I then prayed to the Almighty for Oneship' followed by talking in-my-mind to the memory of my Father and Mother-In-Law. "Dad, Mom (Mother-in-law) - a familiar presence is needed." I needed a sign.
The next morning I awoke and prayed "Yeshua (Jesus), As your followers celebrate your birth, allow my family to feel your splendor." Later that afternoon my revered Sister (Sister-in-law) became engaged. Later that afternoon the wounds that afflicted my family began healing. Later that afternoon I delivered a Christmas plate from a family get-together to my Mum who was finally sleeping soundly. It is truly beautiful and splendid for brethren to dwell together in Unity. I awoke this morning to a day that we dedicate to Building and Maintaining Unity in the family, community, nation and race. Habari Gani ? - Umoja (Unity). We are one in splendor.
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From December 26th, 2007:
http://daddyvarner.blogspot.com/2007/12/we-are-one.html
We are one.... Today we had a PJday. We remained in the home and the kids and the Wifey never left their pajamas. I left the home only to turn in some paperwork at one of my side hustles, and also to buy some food from Choice Pizza & Subs in Virginia Beach. We stayed in the whole day and played, watched t.v., ate together, and had family time. During dinner I turned off the television and picked up a newspaper article that asked the question "What do you know about Kwanzaa ?"
I've been celebrating Kwanzaa for over 30 years. While in Columbus, Ohio my pops/mum sponsored Dr. Karenga (The main creator of the American Kwanzaa celebration) and his equally radical wife to stay with us as he did a three day cultural event for my pops' church Advent United Church of Christ. My Father (aided by my Mum) built this church from a few follks in my parent's living room. We had been celebrating our Kwanzaa for about seven years when Karenga came. He was a bit much for me then, as I really wanted just to fit in and Columbus Ohio in the 1980's was still a little scared of Kwanzaa. Each day during Kwanzaa in the 80's a group of Afrika-loving folk would gather together in homes, community centers, churches and in parks (t'was really cold in the parks) and revel in our ancestral love. (Circa 1977 - 1986) I loved these celebrations as people got together and pot-lucked, listened to story tellers, danced to African Drums from Tony West and The Imani Dancers, partied with a D.J. who threw-down, and the ladies were so hot !
Today will be my children's 7th and 6th Kwanzaa respectively. Kwanzaa is just something our family does, my parents have a well attended family Kwanzaa celebration every year and my daughter previously danced with a group (http://www.suwabiafricanballet.com/) named Suwabi Afrikan Ballet. I have also coordinated a long standing Kwanzaa celebration for the Imani Foundation (http://www.imanifoundation.com/) for about nine yars (tomorrow will be the 19th annual event for Imani Foundation which is 12 years old...we were members of Uhuruu African American Cultural for seven years and ran our program under that moniker). This year I declined to coordinate the event, and I will resign my position as the President of The Imani Foundation on 12/27/2008.
Normally on 12/26 we are at somebodies public event. This year we stayed home, as Kwanzaa should stay at home, as it was intended. Karenga and the U.S. organization (Karenga did develop the celebration with other people) designed public Kwanzaa events as events to teach non-practitioners how to celebrate Kwanzaa. At the close of tonight's dinner I asked my kids (to innitiate our Kwanzaa celebration) "What do you know about Kwanzaa ?" My daughter stated "The Red is for STRUGGLE, the Black is for PEOPLE, the Green is for HOPE." That's not completely the descriptions that the U.S. organization provided, yet that is what I have chosen to teach my kids. I didn't diverge from the truth, I removed some terms that may separate us from our peers. My wife greeted them with "Habri Gani" and my son said "Que Paso" (a loose translation into soulful-spanish). Then he and my daughter both said Umoja. Umoja being the principle of today prompted the question "What is Unity ?" My Son-sun answered that Unity is everything being stuck together and becoming like one. He then explained how the entire world is connected by touching. He said "The chair is touching the floor that's touching the wall that's touching the piano, that's touching the wall that's touching the painting. Everything in the world is touching something and we are all connected. As I searched for the exception to his rule I couldn't find one on a non-sub-atomic level. We are all touching each other in some way. We are all touched and effected by tragedies, and we are all touched by the breath of life. We are all touched by STRUGGLES. We are all touched by other PEOPLE. We are all touched by seeing others operate in HOPE.
I don't celebrate Ramadan but I've been touched by the words and actions of the Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan. I'm not Jewish, maybe I'm Hebrew (I'm sure some are not gonna' understand that), but I've been touched by my beloved friends of Temple Beth El who are Biblical Jews (Israelistes) as opposed to Rabbinical Jews. I'm constantly touched by Donnie D. who hosts "The Big Idea" on CNBC (One of my favorite shows and stations). As a child, every Chanukkah in New York (1968 - 1976) was spent with my parent's dear friends the Gluckmans (Rabbi Emeritus Donald N. Gluckman and family) who allowed me to get drunk on wine as a two year old at one of their celebrations when all the adults failed to notice that a little boy was drinking after everyone.
I'm a Conscious-Christian and I've been touched by Christian people and groups who terrorized my family/ancestors with "Accept Christ or die" and the Trail of Tears, and the Klu Klux Klan (yes, they were a Christian group) as well as being loved, touched by, and prayed for by Christian absolute strangers who saw a frown on my face as I struggled with something in life. I never could think of anything to debunk my son's theory. As I considered the origins of mankind I began singing a Frankie Beverly and Maze tune..... "We are one." My sons' simple observation was truly profound. We are one. May we remain one. May we exemplify oneness. One love yall'. Happy Ramadan, Happy Hanukkah, Merry Christmas, Happy Kwanzaa, Happy New Year. Whatever you celebrate, I celebrate you !
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Post script - I am well aware of Dr. Karenga's past and the environment that the Kwanzaa celebration was birthed into. The celebrants of Kwanzaa that I associate with view Karenga's past and movement towards Improvement as we view America's past and America's movement towards improvement. We also value that the last letter "A" in Kwanzaa is a tribute to "America" (The term Kwanza has one ending letter "A", the celebration Kwanzaa ends with "AA" which nods to Afro-America".) Also we embrace that Kwanzaa was a man-made creation similar to Mother's Day, Father's Day, Christmas, and all other Holy-Days and Holidays. Lastly we embrace that while Dr. Karenga and the U.S. Organization did not place the date to conflict with Christmas although in the 3rd century Christmas was changed from it's earlier various dates (notable January 6th as the Orthodox and Coptic Churches still celebrate Christmas on January 6th) as one of the many tactics the early church used to stamp out earlier religious and cultural celebrations that were on December 25th in order to force conversion to our beloved Christianity.
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Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a World Financial Group team of financial services agents. They specialize in debt reduction, investments, and insurances. Seko is in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in real estate, personal finance, business, counseling and education. Seko is active with numerous Youth Mentorship programs and has a background in radio and television. Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-248-3820 for more details.
We stayed in the house today (12/26/2012). We watched BET's marathon of Alex Haley movies and explained aspects of America's history of Improvement with our children. In the midst of the marathon I smiled thinking how far my family has come based upon the stories my grandmothers told me of our history. I also grimaced, considering the difficult Christmas time my family has had this year. On New Years Eve I consoled a tearful and shaking woman who wondered aloud "I fought to stay alive for this ? I didn't stay alive for this life." Her words were like a cold drink on a bad tooth. I struggled to remain calm and whisper "I glad... We're glad that you decided to fight. We're glad you're alive Mom." Mom then shared her despair that the family seemed dis-jointed and her fears that wounds would never heal. "I just want us to be ONE." Forcing a smile I struggled to say "We Are One. We will remain one." I then prayed to the Almighty for Oneship' followed by talking in-my-mind to the memory of my Father and Mother-In-Law. "Dad, Mom (Mother-in-law) - a familiar presence is needed." I needed a sign.
The next morning I awoke and prayed "Yeshua (Jesus), As your followers celebrate your birth, allow my family to feel your splendor." Later that afternoon my revered Sister (Sister-in-law) became engaged. Later that afternoon the wounds that afflicted my family began healing. Later that afternoon I delivered a Christmas plate from a family get-together to my Mum who was finally sleeping soundly. It is truly beautiful and splendid for brethren to dwell together in Unity. I awoke this morning to a day that we dedicate to Building and Maintaining Unity in the family, community, nation and race. Habari Gani ? - Umoja (Unity). We are one in splendor.
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From December 26th, 2007:
http://daddyvarner.blogspot.com/2007/12/we-are-one.html
We are one.... Today we had a PJday. We remained in the home and the kids and the Wifey never left their pajamas. I left the home only to turn in some paperwork at one of my side hustles, and also to buy some food from Choice Pizza & Subs in Virginia Beach. We stayed in the whole day and played, watched t.v., ate together, and had family time. During dinner I turned off the television and picked up a newspaper article that asked the question "What do you know about Kwanzaa ?"
I've been celebrating Kwanzaa for over 30 years. While in Columbus, Ohio my pops/mum sponsored Dr. Karenga (The main creator of the American Kwanzaa celebration) and his equally radical wife to stay with us as he did a three day cultural event for my pops' church Advent United Church of Christ. My Father (aided by my Mum) built this church from a few follks in my parent's living room. We had been celebrating our Kwanzaa for about seven years when Karenga came. He was a bit much for me then, as I really wanted just to fit in and Columbus Ohio in the 1980's was still a little scared of Kwanzaa. Each day during Kwanzaa in the 80's a group of Afrika-loving folk would gather together in homes, community centers, churches and in parks (t'was really cold in the parks) and revel in our ancestral love. (Circa 1977 - 1986) I loved these celebrations as people got together and pot-lucked, listened to story tellers, danced to African Drums from Tony West and The Imani Dancers, partied with a D.J. who threw-down, and the ladies were so hot !
Today will be my children's 7th and 6th Kwanzaa respectively. Kwanzaa is just something our family does, my parents have a well attended family Kwanzaa celebration every year and my daughter previously danced with a group (http://www.suwabiafricanballet.com/) named Suwabi Afrikan Ballet. I have also coordinated a long standing Kwanzaa celebration for the Imani Foundation (http://www.imanifoundation.com/) for about nine yars (tomorrow will be the 19th annual event for Imani Foundation which is 12 years old...we were members of Uhuruu African American Cultural for seven years and ran our program under that moniker). This year I declined to coordinate the event, and I will resign my position as the President of The Imani Foundation on 12/27/2008.
Normally on 12/26 we are at somebodies public event. This year we stayed home, as Kwanzaa should stay at home, as it was intended. Karenga and the U.S. organization (Karenga did develop the celebration with other people) designed public Kwanzaa events as events to teach non-practitioners how to celebrate Kwanzaa. At the close of tonight's dinner I asked my kids (to innitiate our Kwanzaa celebration) "What do you know about Kwanzaa ?" My daughter stated "The Red is for STRUGGLE, the Black is for PEOPLE, the Green is for HOPE." That's not completely the descriptions that the U.S. organization provided, yet that is what I have chosen to teach my kids. I didn't diverge from the truth, I removed some terms that may separate us from our peers. My wife greeted them with "Habri Gani" and my son said "Que Paso" (a loose translation into soulful-spanish). Then he and my daughter both said Umoja. Umoja being the principle of today prompted the question "What is Unity ?" My Son-sun answered that Unity is everything being stuck together and becoming like one. He then explained how the entire world is connected by touching. He said "The chair is touching the floor that's touching the wall that's touching the piano, that's touching the wall that's touching the painting. Everything in the world is touching something and we are all connected. As I searched for the exception to his rule I couldn't find one on a non-sub-atomic level. We are all touching each other in some way. We are all touched and effected by tragedies, and we are all touched by the breath of life. We are all touched by STRUGGLES. We are all touched by other PEOPLE. We are all touched by seeing others operate in HOPE.
I don't celebrate Ramadan but I've been touched by the words and actions of the Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan. I'm not Jewish, maybe I'm Hebrew (I'm sure some are not gonna' understand that), but I've been touched by my beloved friends of Temple Beth El who are Biblical Jews (Israelistes) as opposed to Rabbinical Jews. I'm constantly touched by Donnie D. who hosts "The Big Idea" on CNBC (One of my favorite shows and stations). As a child, every Chanukkah in New York (1968 - 1976) was spent with my parent's dear friends the Gluckmans (Rabbi Emeritus Donald N. Gluckman and family) who allowed me to get drunk on wine as a two year old at one of their celebrations when all the adults failed to notice that a little boy was drinking after everyone.
I'm a Conscious-Christian and I've been touched by Christian people and groups who terrorized my family/ancestors with "Accept Christ or die" and the Trail of Tears, and the Klu Klux Klan (yes, they were a Christian group) as well as being loved, touched by, and prayed for by Christian absolute strangers who saw a frown on my face as I struggled with something in life. I never could think of anything to debunk my son's theory. As I considered the origins of mankind I began singing a Frankie Beverly and Maze tune..... "We are one." My sons' simple observation was truly profound. We are one. May we remain one. May we exemplify oneness. One love yall'. Happy Ramadan, Happy Hanukkah, Merry Christmas, Happy Kwanzaa, Happy New Year. Whatever you celebrate, I celebrate you !
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Post script - I am well aware of Dr. Karenga's past and the environment that the Kwanzaa celebration was birthed into. The celebrants of Kwanzaa that I associate with view Karenga's past and movement towards Improvement as we view America's past and America's movement towards improvement. We also value that the last letter "A" in Kwanzaa is a tribute to "America" (The term Kwanza has one ending letter "A", the celebration Kwanzaa ends with "AA" which nods to Afro-America".) Also we embrace that Kwanzaa was a man-made creation similar to Mother's Day, Father's Day, Christmas, and all other Holy-Days and Holidays. Lastly we embrace that while Dr. Karenga and the U.S. Organization did not place the date to conflict with Christmas although in the 3rd century Christmas was changed from it's earlier various dates (notable January 6th as the Orthodox and Coptic Churches still celebrate Christmas on January 6th) as one of the many tactics the early church used to stamp out earlier religious and cultural celebrations that were on December 25th in order to force conversion to our beloved Christianity.
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Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a World Financial Group team of financial services agents. They specialize in debt reduction, investments, and insurances. Seko is in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in real estate, personal finance, business, counseling and education. Seko is active with numerous Youth Mentorship programs and has a background in radio and television. Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-248-3820 for more details.
Sunday, November 25, 2012
Sunday Schooled - When I get married...
When I get married...
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'Sunday Schooled' is a collection of blog posts from Seko Varner's former blogs. This post was dated 01/26/2010. The original post is:
http://daddyvarner.blogspot.com/2010/01/when-i-get-married.html
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Then in January 2010 I, her Dad, was placed in the hospital for an emergency life-saving surgery on the same night that her paternal grandmother was placed into the hospital again. During all of this time she has become more apt to shed tears or crack a joke than previously. Yesterday while folding clothes she huffed up the stairs opened the door to my bedroom and stated to my wife and I "Mens underwear are gross ! When I get married my husband is going to have to do his own laundry !" Then she looked directly at me still recovering from my surgery and added "Unless he's sick of course." and semi-slammed the door as she returned to her unfortunate chore (she knew better than to really slam the door).......................................... Children say the darnedest things.
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Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a World Financial Group team of financial services agents. They specialize in debt reduction, investments, and insurances. Seko is in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, counseling and education. Seko is active with numerous Youth Mentorship programs and has a background in radio and television. Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-248-3820.
Thursday, November 22, 2012
Sunday Schooled - Thanksgiving...Giving Thanks
Thanksgiving.....Giving Thanks....
I've long left the myth of the so-called Indian and so-called Pilgrims alone (I'm actually struggling with keeping quiet while these teachers are teaching my children that myth.......However, I realize I live in America. Attacking that myth will seem like selling USA-Haterade, almost Al-Quida'ish.) Thanksgiving has become a little more to me that the bull-chips presented in the commercial media which has become American culture.
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'Sunday Schooled' is a collection of blog posts from Seko Varner's former blogs. This post was dated 11/22/2007 while Seko's father, Rev. Dr. Samuel Varner was alive.
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I'm thankful for the lessons and life of Mom and Dad (note the photo of my parents to the left). I'm thankful to be a Dad. I look forward to tomorrow as my parents are currently doing well, but I know that the time is forthcoming for me to be parent-less.
That frightens me more than I can express.
It's weird to be scared for
my parents, I used to be scared of them. That fear kept me from doing a
lot of things my peers became involved in. As a teen Pops would stay up
at night and inspect my eyes and breath as I returned from DJing a party
or hanging out. As a teen I was constantly worried that Dad would do a
pop visit at my school catching me being a teenager. He did a few of
those and the fear of them kept me on my toes. Currently I'm afraid that
I will disappoint pops more that worrying about his blows. Interestingly
enough that fear of disappointing my parents has geared me towards what
people always seem to attribute to being in a church. I'm constantly
asked "What church do you belong to ?" Folks seem surprised that I
attend a church weekly but am not a member of any church. My behavior is
truly more of a function of not wanting to disappoint my parents, my
ancestors, and God rather than simply having a church inspired life. I
remember the Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan saying that a child
first understands God through his parents. I'm thankful that I was raised
by Yeshua (Jesus) by way of my parents. My father, the Minister,
frequently told his flock "People would rather see a sermon that hear
one." I grew up in a sermon and I'm thankful. I could have done without
the "Spare the rod and spoil the child" sermon however. OUCH !
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Post script: 11/22/2012 - Today both my father and Mother-In-law are both ancestors of three years (May their memory continue to be a blessing). My Father-In-Law has remarried (Ashee), and my Mother is beginning to be embrace a life without her husband (Ashee-Amen). Today I am giving thanks for my ancestors. I walk in the glory of their struggle. Their blood, sweat, and tears..... and their laughter, joy, and prayers, has become the golden streets of our existence. Today I give thanks for my family. Today I give thanks for my family who are marching and remembering by mourning the lives of those who were decimated as a result of the actions of the man we call Christopher Columbus. Today I give thanks for what America has become, those who defend our country, and those who struggled to make it what it is.
Seko
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Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a World Financial Group team of financial services agents. They specialize in debt reduction, investments, and insurances. Seko is in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, counseling and education and has a background in radio and television. www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or 757-248-3820 for details.
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Monday, November 12, 2012
Sunday Schooled - Daddy doesn't take points.
Daddy doesn't take points.
The wifey' has developed a point system to address the sun-son's third grade transition. Whenever he makes a 'bad choice' he looses points. At the beginning of the week he begins with 100 points. I've smiled and been very supportive of the process and have reminded him to make sure his behavior doesn't result in a loss of points from his mother.
I didn't realize that he had noticed that I hadn't used the point system in my guiding interactions with lil' man. He shared with my wifey' "Daddy doesn't take points. Maybe you should teach him how..." One morning I reminded him of his morning duties prior to taking my shower. As I finished getting dressed I checked-in on the lil' ones to ensure progress. I didn't hear the lil' ones upstairs so I traveled downstairs meeting my son at the bottom of the stairs with a surprised look on his face. "Did you clean your floor and make your bed son ?" He said "Uh....No Dad." I asked "Didn't I ask you to do your morning duties ?". He took one step up the stairs and turned around looking at me and returned "You really need to learn how to take away points Dad." I looked up responding "I don't take points, I give spankings." He ran up the stairs, did his duties, did his sister's duties, and turned off the lights in my room........Amen......Ashee.....
Seko Varner
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'Sunday Schooled' is a collection of blog posts from Seko Varner's former blogs. This post was dated 10/26/2008 while Seko's father, Rev. Dr. Samuel Varner was alive.
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Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a World Financial Group team of financial services agents. They specialize in debt reduction, investments, and insurances. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, counseling and education. He has been real estate agent, a school counselor, a teacher, and an Intensive In-Home Counselor. Seko is active with numerous Youth Mentorship programs and has a background in radio and television. Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-248-3820 for more details.
The wifey' has developed a point system to address the sun-son's third grade transition. Whenever he makes a 'bad choice' he looses points. At the beginning of the week he begins with 100 points. I've smiled and been very supportive of the process and have reminded him to make sure his behavior doesn't result in a loss of points from his mother.
I didn't realize that he had noticed that I hadn't used the point system in my guiding interactions with lil' man. He shared with my wifey' "Daddy doesn't take points. Maybe you should teach him how..." One morning I reminded him of his morning duties prior to taking my shower. As I finished getting dressed I checked-in on the lil' ones to ensure progress. I didn't hear the lil' ones upstairs so I traveled downstairs meeting my son at the bottom of the stairs with a surprised look on his face. "Did you clean your floor and make your bed son ?" He said "Uh....No Dad." I asked "Didn't I ask you to do your morning duties ?". He took one step up the stairs and turned around looking at me and returned "You really need to learn how to take away points Dad." I looked up responding "I don't take points, I give spankings." He ran up the stairs, did his duties, did his sister's duties, and turned off the lights in my room........Amen......Ashee.....
Seko Varner
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'Sunday Schooled' is a collection of blog posts from Seko Varner's former blogs. This post was dated 10/26/2008 while Seko's father, Rev. Dr. Samuel Varner was alive.
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Seko Varner is from Positive Vibes Financial, a World Financial Group team of financial services agents. They specialize in debt reduction, investments, and insurances. Seko is also in high demand as a special events DJ and owns an event marketing service. Seko has diverse background in business, counseling and education. He has been real estate agent, a school counselor, a teacher, and an Intensive In-Home Counselor. Seko is active with numerous Youth Mentorship programs and has a background in radio and television. Visit www.HappilyEverAfter.Be or call 757-248-3820 for more details.
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